Who Loves Ya, Baby?

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We often appreciate the beauty and talents of others, while being very critical of ourselves.  It’s true, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  But beauty is also afeeling. Even women viewed as beautifu by the masses, have admitted that they don’t feel beautiful.  So how do you make peace with the woman staring back at you in the mirror?

Find something to love. Appreciate your uniqueness.  Many of the women that grace magazines, headline movies, or that we cross paths with every day and admire, have something about them that stands out.  Take a look at yourself and decide what is your best feature and your most unique feature.  Then celebrate it! Play it up instead of hiding it.

Develop your style from the inside out.  Persona is attractive.  In fact, it’s magnetic.  So don’t be afraid to stand out from the crowd.  What if Tina Turner had pulled her hair into a bun and swayed softly to the music?  We would have missed out on her energy and stage presence.  But hey, it worked for Sade!  Millions of fans are glad she didn’t have backup dancers.  Be authentic.  Not only will you feel more confident, but others will see your value as well, and you should too.

Work what you got! Being strong and fit is not only sexy, it’s a confidence booster.  When you exercise,your body releases endorphins that boost your mood.  That’s why you always feel better after a workout.  Exercise regularly and make it fun.

It’s all about you. Really, it is.  Comparing yourself to others, be it looks, talent or career, is a dangerous game.  It leads you off the path of authenticity.  Why be a trend, when you can be a classic?  The only person you want to compete with is yourself.  Fine tune the talents and abilities that you have.  Take some time to decide what you want your unique life to look like.

Posture makes perfect. Stand straight and walk tall.  It’s OK to strut your stuff. Walk into a room as if you belong.

Once you appreciate yourself, that beautiful feeling is sure to follow!

Denise
I am a native of Richmond, Virginia and the author of one children's book. I've done some freelance writing. Currently, I am developing a seminar to teach youths about career choices and possibilities. Aside from reading, I love spas, beauty products, and positive conversation.