Both Sides Of The Seesaw

Beauty Survey, Allure/March
Beauty Survey, Allure/March

I’m having a “tsk, tsk” moment this morning.  Loving your body type is a sign of healthy self-esteem.   But sadly, I’ve witnessed, heard, overheard or read (insert name of any celeb blog here) where one woman too many gloats about her appearance just to bash someone else.

I’ve been every size from a 4 to a 14.  I’ve  heard backhanded compliments and straightforward insults: “You’re cute, but I’d never want to be as small as you”, “I prefer to have curves like a woman, not a girl”, “Look how fat you are! I hardly recognized you.”

Being shaped like Jessica Rabbit, doesn’t make you any more of a woman than anyone else.  Measurements don’t define a woman.  And lets be honest, curves are one thing, rolls are another. They are not the same!  If you are more bountiful than good health necessitates, it doesn’t give you a pass to say hurtful things to women smaller than you.

On the lighter end of the seesaw, being a size 2, 4, 6 (take your pic) isn’t everything. That look you get from others isn’t necessarily envy. Don’t make the mistake of being a wreck-up from the neck up!  Some women start going to the gym and forget about everything else.  If you have the gifts of discipline and self-control, at least be strategic!

Beauty comes in different sizes!

How long will people who live in glass houses continue to throw stones?

Denise
I am a native of Richmond, Virginia and the author of one children's book. I've done some freelance writing. Currently, I am developing a seminar to teach youths about career choices and possibilities. Aside from reading, I love spas, beauty products, and positive conversation.