Whew! Happy Monday

Last week was a whirlwind. I was so busy putting out fires and battling dragons in corporate America (I’ll explain later) that I didn’t get a chance to post again. But never fear, the dragon sleeps and I will play catch up this week. As you may have noticed, the landscape is a little different today. I’m working on a new look for Rainy Day Diva in 2009. I’ll keep tweaking it until I get it right, so please bear with me and let me know what you think. Meanwhile let me know how you fared this weekend. If you’re in the North East like me, I hope you enjoyed the snow. I was a bit under the weather, but precipitation is always cool with me.

Meanwhile, I thought I’d give you some food for thought to start your week. This morning’s quote:

If you think the grass is greener on the other side, you can best believe the water bill is higher and the fertilizer deeper.

Think on this:

Are you so envious and so dissatisfied with your own life, that you want someone else’s debts, responsibilities or struggles?

Let’s be grateful for what we have, and happy for others.

Happy Monday!

I couldn’t think of a better way to start the week than with high glam and woman power. Jada Pinkett Smith (I love that she doesn’t hyphenate her name) talks to Capitol File magazine about women’s issues, relationships and how the media influences the perception of women and black culture.

Here’s a snippet of her interview and more pics. Gorgeous!!

A Lesson in Punctuation

Today’s post is very important. It’s no secret that I love to read blogs and dish about the latest. However, I have noticed that be it in print or actual conversation, there is a major punctuation faux pas that has got to stop. I’m sure you’ve seen this error or have uttered it on occasion with confidence. Allow me to illustrate (I’ll just throw out random names to make a point).

Halle Berry looks good for 42.
Angela Bassett looks good to be in her late forties.
Stacey Dash looks good for her age.
Tina Turner looks good for 68.

Divas, all of these sentences are punctuated incorrectly. Allow me to show you how these sentences should be punctuated:

Halle Berry looks good.
Angela Bassett looks good.
Stacey Dash looks good.
Tina Turner looks good.

Now while some would argue that the adjective should be great, fabulous or fantastic, that is outside of the realm of our lesson today. The point is that the period (.) should follow the adjective. End of sentence.

I’m sure some of you are sitting at your keyboard or looking at your cell phone and thinking “What is the point?”

Well, the truth is there is a lot of hidden energy and emotion in those incorrect sentences above and believe me it’s not positive. The fact is, no one expects someone in their eighties to look sixty or someone who is sixty to look forty. And no one expects someone who is forty to look twenty although I’ve seen it on more than one occasion. So when you say that someone “looks good for…” is that really a compliment? No.

Actually it says more about you as a person and it exposes your beliefs. If you are younger than that person, it may be an indication that you believe that at a certain age you will no longer be able to fulfill your potential, or feel sexy or appealing. In other words you don’t believe you have much of a future. Or, if older, you believe it is already over for you and you’ve given up. It suggest that you believe beauty, success and happiness have expiration dates. This is NOT true, ladies. Beauty, sexiness, happiness, success and even energy do not have ticking clocks.

So the next time you see a dapper elderly gentleman, a grandma who is a fox, or a forty year-old that is a dime, use the correct punctuation when you say it, write it, or think it: They look good.

Any questions?

The Best Dress

It won’t be long before the much anticipated Inauguration of President-Elect Barack Obama is upon us. And many designers are waiting on pins and needles, figuratively and literally, to see what First Lady Michelle Obama will wear. Many have submitted sketches of their designs for her. These are just a few, but you can check out the rest here here.

And they haven’t forgotten the little ladies, either. For Malia and Sasha, there are designs as well.

One day I approached someone from behind, and before I could utter one word, they called my name. “How did you know it was me?”, I asked. Her response, “I heard you coming.” Now, I am not one of those women who stomps around like a rhino doing the buffalo dance. And I was 100% certain that this individual wasn’t tuned in to the gracious sway of my signature walk. So I continued, “what do you mean?” And that is when she took me by surprise. “It’s that noise that your stockings make.”

Duh, Duh, Duh!!!

She continued, and dismissively I might add, “you need to turn your panty hose inside out, otherwise I’ll always hear you coming.”

I started seeing those swirls in black, red, and white that old comic book heroes from before my time used to see after a villain had sucker punched them, I kid you not. I really thought that was just an effect for T.V. but it can happen, but I digress. Was it that bad? I had tried to customize my gait to minimize any noise and now to be told that I sounded like a DJ scratching on the turntables–swish swish, swish, swish a swish swish. Whew! You can only imagine the anxiety, creativity, and cramps I had trying to retreat quietly.

I am a firm believer in taking good advice even when it takes me by surprise. So, while in shock, I tucked away this nugget of knowledge, and I must admit it does work!! Silence is not only golden, it’s fabulous. Now in addition to never letting them see me sweat, I don’t let them hear me coming.

And for those of you who are thinking that hosiery is “so played”, it is twenty degrees in the North East, you betta put on some stockings, but turn them inside out!!


I must admit I always look forward to the January issue of Essence. Every year they feature Ageless Beauties. Women who have remained beautiful, graceful and youthful in body and spirit with each passing decade. This year they are doing something different. Or should I say, there’s a “change”. Essence magazine will feature a double-cover issue of President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama. I would imagine this won’t be on news stands long, ladies. The issue will have a 56 page tribute to President-Elect Obama’s historic campaign. The pictures are gorgeous, classy and timeless. Actually, that is exactly what I was expecting.

Let’s Get Cooking

Nothing beats an inviting atmosphere, a beautiful table, the aroma of a scrumptious meal and a sweet libation. That is why I was so excited to see G. Garvin’s new book, Dining In. I wasn’t anticipating it, I just happened to notice it in my local bookstore a while back. I have all of his books, but this is one of the best as he takes the mystery out of choosing the right wines and other things that can be daunting for the bravest of self-proclaimed chefs. Be sure to check this one out. His foreword to his daughter will melt your heart.

I just recently finished Cooked, the New York Times best-selling autobiography of Jeff Henderson. You may remember his show the Chef Jeff Project on the Food Network. Hopefully, there will be a season two if you missed it. Cheff Jeff takes at-risk youth and teaches them culinary skills. I didn’t miss an episode. If you don’t know about Cheff Jeff, he spent most of his youth as a drug dealer and it was in prison that he discovered and nurtured his culinary talents. His autobiography is a must as is his new cook book, Chef Jeff Cooks. I first became familiar with his story when he appeared on the Oprah Winfrey show.

And last but definitely not least, have you ever heard that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? Well, it’s been a matter of debate for many years, but the Get ‘Em Girls, don’t doubt it for a minute. Check out the Get ‘Em Girls Guide to The Power of Cuisine. This has evolved from a cook book to a lifestyle. I love it!!

Ways To Save

Check out Essence Magazine’s Freebie Friday. They offer ideas for having fun and keeping funds. Love it.

Don’t forget that tomorrow is the first Tuesday in December, which means Platinum Tuesday’s at Pier 1. You’ll save 10%. Every bit helps.

I shopped a lot over the weekend and hit up one of my favorite stores (I think it is the most slept on) and that is Talbot’s. Yes, I admitted it online. They had a fabulous sale this weekend (50 % on sale and 30% everything else) and it can only get better. Check it out, I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised. Especially with the accessories and coats.

Energy Crisis

It’s all over the news, magazines, and TV shows. You would have to be living under a rock or in a deep coma to not know that there is an energy crisis. Well, I too, have been concerned about energy. I unplug my unused chargers and turn off that extra light. However I must admit, that how we use energy has been weighing on my mind for quite some time and I’m talking about something that doesn’t involve electric companies, windmills, or politics.

So many of us are misdirecting our emotional energy, our “Inergy”. We spend a lot of time focusing on things that aren’t worthy of our mental real estate. We clutter and crowd out our focus, our drive, our talent and ultimately delay success, deny us fulfillment and waste our pretty (you read that right). Have you ever looked at an old photo and realized that back then, whenever then was, that you had it going on–not just from a superficial standpoint, but that you really had it going on, but at the time you just didn’t realize it? You thought you weren’t as smart, or talented, or pretty. You thought you needed him, or them (certain friends, etc), or it (cars, status symbols, etc.), you thought you didn’t have what it took to do the things that you REALLY wanted to do, or the courage to be who you really are. You wasted a lot of your Inergy doubting and ignoring the possibilities. Now you look back at that photo or that time and realize that you had it. You had a chance. But now what you have is an Inergy Crisis.

Well, it’s not too late to turn it around. Just close your eyes and imagine for a moment 10 years into the future. Yep, a whole decade. Do you want to look back at a photo from today and say again, “I had a chance, I could have done it.” Don’t let the added responsibilities, the hectic schedule, the extra weight, disappointments, missed opportunities, and yes–that failed relationship consume your Inergy. Try to see the beauty of where you are and savor it for a moment. Then decide what path you are going to take, and take it. If you are in a bleak situation, consider this your “paying dues” time and smile through it. Every corporate success, entrepreneur, hip-hop star, award winning actress, and rocket scientist will testify that they had to pay their dues, so try to see it that way.

Turn off those thoughts that are depleting your happiness, idling your talents, stifling your dreams and increasing your emotional baggage. And please, ladies…don’t waste your pretty.

Let me know how you conserve your inergy.

Rainy Day Diva

Who Is…Eric Roberson?

I had the pleasure of seeing Will Downing in concert recently. I had never seen him live and was truly looking forward to not only hearing his smooth baritone, but also seeing Maysa, another one of my favorites who was opening for him. Much to my surprise the show opened with an artist I was not familiar with–Eric Roberson. I shifted in my seat, wondering how long before I got to see the people I paid to see, but within minutes of Eric making his way on to the stage, I had forgotten all about my hurry to see the headliners.

Eric Roberson gave a magnificent performance. I love it when people can do their thing live–and boy did he do it right. While I didn’t know any of his songs, I knew that I was going to have a new artist added to my Ipod. And by the time he sang Adore by Prince, Eric had a new fan. I think what was most impressive to me was when he wrote a song on stage. He asked audience members to give him five words and he would incorporate those words into a song. What was so great was that he did it AND the song actually made sense. It was wonderful. So if you didn’t know about Eric Roberson, now you know.

You can check out Eric’s blog here