Be Careful What You Pray For

New York Times Best Selling Author, Kimberla Lawson Roby, first introduced us to Alicia Black in The Best of Everything.  After shopping her way to divorce court amongst other things, Alicia is back in Be Careful What You Pray For, and has fallen head over heels in love with and married, Pastor JT Valentine. Not only is he handsome, but he’s just as ambitious and charismatic as Alicia’s father, the Reverend Curtis Black.  I’ve been a fan of Roby since she debuted some years ago with Behind Closed Doors and she just keeps getting better. In Be Careful What You Pray For, Alicia tries to forgive herself for her mistakes in her first marriage, prove she’s worthy to others and convince herself that she deserves to be happy.  Besides, Pastor Valentine is doing quite well financially, so he must be “the one”.  As always Roby delivers an entertaining read. I always feel that I am right there with Alicia. When it comes to scandal, I don’t know how Roby does it. I always think I know where it’s going but she delivers some surprises.  It was a page turner, but I finished the final chapter with a few thoughts that made me go ‘hhmmmm’.

In the real world I’ve met an Alicia or two.  They think they’ve got everything figured out, especially when it comes to matters of the heart.  They often refuse any advice from anyone because any and everyone is not qualified to tell them anything.  You know this chic too, right?  You’ll often hear them say things like, “I don’t need so-and-so’s advice because I grew up with 5 brothers and so I know the game.”  Or, “I saw what my mother/sister/aunt went through.”  Sometimes they even admit to past mistakes, “been there done that.”  What baffles me is that most times, these women are in the same relationship gumbo as the rest of us, sometimes with extra hot sauce.  They marry a man who’s game is tighter than their wack brothers, a junior version of their father/uncle/brother-in-law or  the same guy they had before in a different package or income tax bracket.  So my question is, when it comes to love and relationships, do we learn from watching others, or is experience the best teacher? Or do we ever learn at all?  Your thoughts?

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4 Responses to “Book Review: Be Careful What You Pray For”

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    Katie @ Can't Get There — February 11, 2010 @ 1:22 pm

    This doesn’t sound like something I’d normally read, but I love the questions you pose. I think that there are two kinds of people (well, more than that really, but let’s go with two for now): those will try to listen to others’ advice, and those who won’t. Even the kind who *try* to listen to others’ advice I think never really absorb it until they’re there. They might make a decision based on something they’ve heard or been warned about or watch someone go through, but those lessons just don’t stick the same way as going through it themselves.

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    Lasonja — February 11, 2010 @ 3:20 pm

    I believe that how we behave in relationships is both what is learned and from experience. Initially, what lays the foundation for how we approach relationships is what we have seen growing up (i.e. the stability or dysfunction of our parents, grandparents, etc.). What we see in their relationships molds our view of and how we respond to situations that come up in our future relationships.

    Experience plays a part because each relationship will bring new “situations” to the table – and only until we have been put in those situations, can we truly say how we will/will not respond (which is why we shouldn’t be judgmental about the decisions of others). However, experience means nothing if we do not learn from our past. Otherwise, we become experienced at nothing but dysfunction.

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    Tompreobre — February 14, 2010 @ 7:28 pm

    Hello there, Happy Valentines Day!!!

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